Why You Don’t Need 12 inches Of Self-Esteem To Be Good In The Sack
Being confident in the sack is knowing your worth, your abilities and what you are bringing with you into the bedroom.
Quick and easy access to porn has set unrealistic views for men to follow. With sexy, beautiful women overly pleased, being ragged in every position by a handsome, muscled, long cocked male.
But the truth is, not every man has the confidence of a porn star, let alone 12 inches of ‘hardihood’ to do the deed.
We don’t necessarily need more excuses to have sex, but here are a few tips to help you gain a little self-confidence when getting naked.
Your ultimate pleasure is in your hands.
Be In The Moment
It’s easy to get caught up in the wrong thoughts during sex. ‘Is your partner getting pleasure from that move?’, ‘Is your cock big enough?’. Your mind can be so focused on the negative that you find yourself unable to let go and enjoy a mindless fucking session. Instead, focus on the pleasure you feel, and what your playmate is expressing. Speak up and ask them what they like or suggest a particular move, are they moaning and arching with pleasure? The more you focus on the positives, the better the sex will become.
Edging is a masturbation technique where you pleasure yourself as close to climax as possible and then stop to delay and intensify orgasm. This practice can help you suspend ejaculation, a common concern for many men. Edging can build your confidence about the control you have over your arousal and can give you a deeper appreciation of various sensations of sex, rather than obsessing over orgasm.
In porn, the stars have hot, filthy sex and can get off in every position without added stimulation. For men, that is not always a problem, but for women, it is not as easy. Trying to guess what turns your partner on, can lead to rubbing them off in the wrong direction and further dampening your ego. Step up and speak up, ask her what she wants, tell her what you like, it will be the best move you pull.
Take More Risks
Lack of sexual confidence can result from lacklustre sex because it’s the same old stuff. You fall into a routine of what feels great, so you repeat over and over until it becomes all you know. If you become more open to talking positions and what feels nice, why not take it further and talk about your kinks together? Being able to explore each other’s fantasies are going to be a huge confidence boost for both of you. Chances are, you will never look back at your old sex life.
What makes you feel confident in the bedroom? Let us know in the comments below.